It does not matter how slowly you go as long as you do not stop.
Confucius
Infertility treatment can be a long and trying process. However, when things get too much and you feel like giving up, remember these words by Confucius. No matter how long it takes, only perseverance will help you reach your ultimate goal of conceiving a child.
Of course, sometimes it’s harder to stay motivated in the face of failure. The following tips will help you get through these difficult times and keep trying until you achieve the result you want:
Understand the treatment. It will be easier to be patient if you know exactly what is happening to your body and why it takes this much time for the treatment to show any positive results. This understanding will allow you to help the therapy along by introducing some lifestyle changes that will strengthen your body and naturally improve fertility.
Join a support group. It’s important to remember that you aren’t the only couple struggling with this treatment. There are many people who share your fears and problems, and talking to them will definitely help you cope. Joining a support group is a great method of stress relief as well as a chance to make new friends.
Go on romantic dates. The stress induced by infertility often tears couples apart. Personal conflicts will increase the level of stress, which will affect the treatment negatively. The best way to prevent this is to remember how much you love each other, as together you will be able to overcome anything. Keep the feelings alive by going on interesting dates. If your work schedules keep you too busy, arrange a romantic dinner at home and simply enjoy each other’s company for a night.
Take some time off. Discuss this matter with your doctor. If the treatment reaches an important phase or if you feel too stressed out by everything, take a few days off and go on an impromptu vacation. This will help you relieve a great amount of stress and improve your overall wellbeing, therefore increasing your chances of conceiving.
Learn to deal with inquiries from family and friends. Sometimes even our dearest people can be quite tactless in their prying. You should learn to ignore such quips and “talk around them”. For example, when an overeager relative starts telling you that “This is just in your head. Stop worrying and you’ll get better.”, just say “Thank you for the advice” and move onto a different subject. Don’t let the remarks from others get to you.
Think about the future. The best way to stay motivated is to think of the happiness to come. Remember, persisting with the treatment today will result in a happy family in the future.